Why did that sex make you so unforgettable？

Original Chu Shui Marriage and Family Magazine

Author: Chu Shui Editor: Zhang Shuo

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Source: Marriage and Family Magazine (ID: hunyinyujiating 99)

What kind of psychological mechanism is it to keep the vague memory clear all the time?

In fact, it is also sex, and the feelings are different every time.

Sometimes, we make love with our bodies and feel each other’s breath; Sometimes, we make love with our hearts, which sublimates our feelings …

In a sex, the more intense the emotional experience, the more unforgettable it will be.

Because, in such sex, there is energy flowing.

It is also because such sex can change our hearts.

01

The sex that inspired me.

Sharer: Han Yu

Looking back now, I have never been at any stage in my life, and I can enjoy sex crazily with Sasha as I did when I first got married, not because of the novelty of my wedding, but because of my need.

One day when I came home from work, there were two men’s clothes on the bed. When I was changing clothes, Sasha came over and said, "Honey, try it on and buy it for you!" "

I pushed with a straight face and said, "I don’t need it, just return it!" " Sasha didn’t react for a while and continued to convince me: "It’s not a luxury item at a discount, just try it!"

I just couldn’t get used to Sasha’s grievance, and I suddenly got angry: "Did I say I wanted clothes? I just bought a house at home. Have you thought about so many loans? Are you uncomfortable without spending money! "

The last sentence, I said it seriously, Sasha froze for 3 seconds, and then quickly recovered her calm. Her emotional intelligence has always been high. For example, now, her calmness makes me feel guilty.

I tried to adjust my mood, stepped forward and hugged Sasha slowly. Sasha immediately hold me tight, a second ago was stiff shoulders, immediately relaxed.

On my chest, Sasha’s short hair tickled me, so I carried her directly to the bed …

All the guilt of the previous moment turned into motivation. I sprinted all the way to the finish line without stopping, sweating like rain, and then slowly recovered my calm.

After the event, Sasha was still reluctant to leave, like a naughty child breathing behind me. My heart itched unbearable and I got up to respond to her: "What a soldier!" "

I heard Sasha say in my ear, "In this case, how can we not fight more and more bravely?"

I let go of my guilt, and this time, I was filled with love.

There seems to be no need for any language between us.

When I left her body, all negative emotions such as helplessness, injustice and guilt disappeared, and I had energy again!

My marriage with Sasha is not blessed.

Sasha’s family conditions are superior, and her parents don’t accept her marrying a man who has been married. But I love her, and she loves me.

So, she put aside everything in her hometown in Hangzhou and ran to Shanghai with me to start a business. Before I met Sasha, I felt that I lacked everything. After I met Sasha, I suddenly felt very poor.

It’s a kind of pain that you love her, but you can’t keep her living standard.

But Sasha doesn’t care. She can either walk around the streets with me in high heels like a soldier, or argue with customers who don’t keep their promises completely regardless of the image.

Every progress in our career has her sweat.

When we encounter setbacks, we can always think of sex, because at that time, we especially need each other’s temperature.

Every time I have sex in pain, I feel completely transformed. Although everything in the future is uncertain, at least we still have this moment and each other!

◆ Sex sharing:

If a person’s living standard can be measured by material things, what can sex be measured by? Time? Frequency?

It doesn’t seem to be in tune, and these factors are not enough to describe the wonderful experience brought by a perfect sex.

Because of this, sex has a special incentive effect. It can make us forget the bondage of secular ideas. As long as we feel it with our heart, it can repay you in feeling.

When you truly feel your partner’s needs and treat this intimate relationship with care, you will unconsciously motivate yourself to do better.

This kind of good play will also push you to overcome difficulties and fears in reality, thus changing the status quo.

02

The sex that restored my trust.

Sharer: Linglong

I always feel that my marriage keeps wandering in intimacy and loneliness, and it goes on and on.

Sometimes, looking back at my marriage from a proper distance, I will feel very happy.

However, when you are in it, you often can’t find a sense of existence.

Maybe it’s because two people are too familiar with each other. Many times, I know what he is thinking. I can feel that he is lying to me. Although I don’t know why, my husband looks obviously different when he lies.

Once I worked overtime and called my husband to be caring and attentive. He faltered and said that he was at home, and I knew he was lying. Despite his work, he went home to inspect the post, and he was not there.

I panicked, and all kinds of speculations in my heart.

That night, I couldn’t help but feel it. After several rounds, he was incredibly dripping.

Finally, I cried first because I couldn’t hold my breath. My husband panicked and explained, "I lost the company’s documents, and others helped me find them. I went out to take a trip temporarily!"

It turned out that he just happened to be out, not intentionally cheating. I heard his abnormal tone on the phone, just panic after losing the file.

I shyly plunged my head into my husband’s arms, feeling sorry for my suspicion, and worried that suspicion would deteriorate my relationship with her husband.

At the moment, I cried like a pear flower and threw myself at the initiative. He suddenly came to the spirit, and his ability to show the boat was really first-class.

Under his fierce collision and warm caress, I calmed down, and then I suddenly rushed to the climax.

Those few seconds of excitement washed away all my doubts, and suddenly I felt that I was boring.

I just feel that my husband doesn’t love himself. When I turn around, I find the truest sense of existence in sex. It’s really a struggle!

As soon as I got out of bed, my husband recovered the essence of wood bumps and immediately assumed a look of indifference to anything. The enthusiasm for me seems to be zero in an instant.

In normal times, I would complain that he "burned down the bridge".

However, with previous suspicions, I realized how lovely my husband’s generosity is.

Perhaps, his feelings are really great, but in the most intimate contact, he is sincere and never pretentious.

He is willing to spare no effort to satisfy me and to save my hesitation when I need it most. Maybe, I shouldn’t demand too much from him.

◆ Sex sharing:

Good sex is a catalyst, which allows us to face our inner needs directly.

After human beings invented language, it seems that they have a gorgeous coat, but no one can ignore the most primitive power of sex, which can transcend language!

In the case of Linglong, sex is repairing the boundary of their intimate relationship, dissolving her doubts about this relationship, and bringing the two people closer both physically and psychologically.

This sex, burning a lot of irrational emotional residues, is a cohesive force in a depressed state.

So, it’s unforgettable.

03

The sex that taught me to cherish

Sharer: 澎

What I hate most in this world is Mr. Su’s indifferent expression when he is angry. What I like best is Mr. Su’s sincere, romantic and childlike expression.

Yes, Mr. Su is an emotional person. He always says, "I will lose my temper because I care about you", but can’t you please control it a little?

As far as I can remember, the fiercest quarrel was about buying a house. Mr. Su and I argued endlessly about whether to use the balance of the provident fund to pay the loan or the down payment. He wanted to save interest, and I wanted to make up the decoration fee quickly.

As a result, it was obviously a good thing, but it evoked all our new and old hatreds.

Seeing that Mr. Su kept turning over old accounts, I roared: "Good! I don’t agree, see how you buy it? "

Mr. Su did not show weakness and retorted: "If you have the ability, don’t live if you buy it!"

Seeing that this was the rhythm of kicking me out, I immediately flew into a rage and slammed the door to leave.

All the way, I cried as I walked, making pedestrians keep looking at me.

All I can think about is the footage of myself desperately saving money for buying a house.

Who am I working so hard for? Why can’t I be nice to myself? !

Thinking like this, I found myself hungry, and immediately ran into McDonald’s and bought the latest set meal, plus the most classic snacks.

My stomach is full, and my heart is not so empty. When I think of my morning experience, I don’t feel so sad. think

I think Mr. Su is hungry at the moment, and he is moved by compassion while gloating. I bought the same set meal and took it home. I happened to meet Mr. Su at home. It turned out that he was going out to buy rice.

When he saw the takeaway in my hand, his eyes flashed a little touched, and he took it without saying a word, sitting on the sofa and eating silently.

When I went into the room to change clothes, I was really shocked by the clothes scattered on the bed-while I was away, Mr. Su actually cut my clothes and took it out!

In distress situation, I rushed out of the house, trying to grab Mr. Su’s hamburger.

He took two bites, then took me in his arms and threw away the hamburger, posing as "I want to eat you now".

I’m drunk, too. It’s the first time I’ve been up and down and rolling around on a pile of clothes.

Towards the climax, Mr. Su called my name more than 20 times in a row, as if he was confirming my existence repeatedly, and then accompanied by a sentence "Fuck you!" As an end.

Finally, he sat down on the bed with a wry smile: "Look, I told you I had impulse control disorder! I can’t control cutting clothes and making out. "

I ignored him, and my mood was very complicated.

Strangely enough, in the messy room and in the ups and downs of emotions, I felt a rare impulse from my heart, which was a precious experience that was recovered.

It made me forget the quarrel and the rift in the relationship a few hours ago. It made me ignore the shock when I saw the pieces of clothes. It made our relationship stronger and more complete.

Afterwards, we decided to set aside part of the balance of the provident fund to buy me some new clothes!

◆ Sex sharing:

Some sex with anger is unforgettable because after excitement, some deeper emotions will emerge.

In this unforgettable sex, the feeling of being recovered is so obvious because it helps people to dissolve some low-level emotions, thus inducing high-level emotions.

Sex can not only bring pleasure, but also strengthen people’s care in a pleasant atmosphere. Even anger can be solved when both husband and wife make concerted efforts to improve it.

At this time, sex often becomes a tool to integrate people’s body and mind.

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